Arguments Against Full-Time Homemaking

When I discuss the issue of homemaking with people who are not too keen about the idea they usually argue that…

In today’s world a woman can no longer stay at home full-time. The family just couldn’t afford it.

It’s usually the men who are saying this and then they’ll list all kinds of expenses their family has. They couldn’t possibly meet all their family’s needs, could they? Women, on the other side, tend to give me another reason for having to go to work…

Work is a welcome change to the monotony of housework. I just couldn’t stay home all day. What am I to do the whole day long? I need to go out of the house and meet other people.

Let’s tackle one at a time, shall we?

Raising a Family On One Income?

Is it possible for a family of four to live in a 800-1200 square feet house? It sure is! Bigger homes not only cost more to buy or rent but also to maintain. Especially with the current energy prices, heating the larger home could end up costing you a fortune. 

Is it possible to feed a family of four on one income? It sure is! A great side-effect being, they usually eat healthier and more regularly than a family where both parents are working outside the home.

But what about owning a car, a house, going on vacation, buying gadgets and all? Well…

I find that this is the main reason why a couple does not want to be living on one income or why they would say that it isn’t possible for them to be living on one income.

You see, if only one person is working and making money, then the family will have to cut back a bit, of course. That doesn’t mean, though, that they won’t survive on less money. Truth is, and here lies the challenge, we need to ask ourselves: are both incomes needed for our family’s survival or to fulfill our family’s dreams?

We could ask: What about the second car, for example. Do we really need it? If both of us are working outside the home, we sure do. Then we will need to spend money to buy it and on insurance, gas and maintenance.

There are many ways how we can cut down our monthly expenses and save money. Stay tuned, I will get into more details in future posts.

But what about the other argument against full-time homemaking? Monday’s post will offer more on that 😉

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Source Of Life

If you would have asked me during my early childhood years, I would have said that I’m growing up in a Christian family. Decades later I know that the home I grew up in was rather a traditional than a real Christ-committed one. I often dwell on the thought of what would have happened had I been raised in a truly Christian home.

I’ll have to admit, my grandma did have a great influence in my life. Thanks to her, my parents prayed the same children’s prayer with me before bedtime: Müde bin ich geh’ zur Ruh’. We prayed together up until I was about ten years old. Then I was on my own. I kept on praying every evening, trying to find the right words that would please God. I loved to talk to the LORD and I felt safe each night, no matter what. However, I went off the path a couple of years later. What happened, you ask? I’ll have to save that for another day’s blog post (it’s too long of a story for today’s post).

My grandma also set an example, not so much for my parents but for me, to read God’s Word. She would get up very early in the morning and sneak out of the bedroom to sit at the dining table and read her Bible. Sadly, she never explained why she was reading it and she never read God’s Word to her grandchildren. However, seeing her sitting at the table with her Bible open in front of her is a picture I’ll now never should forget.

I say now, because for the first two decades of my life I had not been reading, studying and memorizing God’s Word. Nobody has told me about the Bible, nor how important, lifesaving and life-changing its message would be for me. That’s why, in so many ways, I often felt like the ring-buoy I always needed had been stolen, kept from me, and therefore my (new) life in Christ had been lost for such a long time…

If you do have small children or grandchildren, please do read the Word of God to them – even if it’s only a small portion a day. Help them to memorize verses and bigger parts of it. Sing Bible songs with them. Guide them to the Source Of Life so they will know where to go to once they left home.

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Women

Where do we come from? What is our purpose in life?

If we go all the way back to Genesis 2:18 we read that it was not (and, by the way, it still isn’t) good for man to be alone. Man needed a help meet. But amongst all the creatures God had made there was not a helper found suitable for Adam. What did God do? We find out in Genesis 2:21-23 (NKJV) where it says:

And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place.
Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.”

So how does the Bible answer the question of where women have come from? Let’s read Genesis 2:21-23 (NKJV) again. This time we are taking the text only for what it says and jotting down the facts it reveals:

  1. God caused Adam to fall into a deep sleep. (v. 21)
  2. God took one of Adam’s ribs and closed up the flesh in its place. (v. 21)
  3. God took the rib and made it into a woman. (v. 22)
  4. God brought the woman to Adam. (v. 22)
  5. Adam calls her Woman because she was taken out of Man. (v. 23)

Imagine that, God made the woman out of Adam’s rib. That doesn’t mean that we have been made out of our husband’s rib, of course. However, you and I were fearfully and wonderfully made by God for our husbands (1. Corinthians 11:9). Do you know how special this is?

Feminists will do all that is in their power to deny and destroy this truth. The fact that woman is made for man is no longer something special — women want to be independent from man and consequently from God.

Yes, there are some sayings in the Bible that seem hard to accept, some like the eleventh chapter of 1. Corinthians where it says that your husband is your head. This passage also talks about head coverings – but that’s another study for another day. Moving on to verse 7, though, you will discover that woman is the glory of man. Imagine that, you are your husband’s glory. How exciting is that?

That wonderful truth is downplayed by a society in which some men are still taking advantage of their physical strength to abuse and control women. A world in which women find it hard to accept the headship of men who do not want to be leaders. It’s a fallen world full of sinful humans who chose to be independent of God and His Word — and rather want to do things their own way.

The creation of the woman is an amazing story! If we willingly submit to God and study His Word carefully we will have to agree with Matthew Henry who wrote in his commentary that woman was:

not made out of his [man’s] head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be beloved.

God placed us at the side of our husbands to help them and not to fight them or compete with them. It’s time to trust God and take His Word seriously. God blesses obedience.

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