Differences

We are so different! How can we go on?

It’s one of those days. Nothing seems to be working out. I feel like a complete failure. I think about how other women are doing things so well. Patricia makes the perfect cupcakes. Catherine’s house is always spotless. Susan is doing a great job teaching her children at home. Monica plays the piano and has such a lovely voice. Paula prays like a real prayer warrior. Margaret knits the most beautiful cardigans I have ever seen. What about me? What did I accomplish?

Ever felt this way?

We are different because we don’t have the same function as others. That is true for a family, a work situation and within the Church — the Body of Christ.

For as in one body we have many members, and the members do not all have the same function, … (Romans 12:4)

We are different because of our unique character and gifts. If all of the members of the Church were singers, where would the teaching, the leading, the healing, the helping, the administrating, etc. be?

Not all cupcakes look and taste the same, neither are all houses as clean as others. Homeschooling isn’t for everyone and not everybody can be a teacher. Some people sing better, some pray more energetically than others. There are women that are more likely gifted in needlework than in baking. So let Patricia bake the cupcakes, Catherine organize the cleaning tasks, Susan teach Sunday School, Monica be the worship leader, Paula lead the prayer group, Margaret knit things to take along when visiting the widows and fatherless.

Within the Body of Christ each member is unique. No member can tell another that she is not needed! Not one is like the other and not one is worth less than the other. We don’t all have the same function nor the same role to play. God made us. He gave us certain gifts and He is the One who calls us to be what He intended for us to be! Don’t try to do a job that was meant for another person. Do not compare yourself with others, who have been given a certain gift that you do not have. Do not try to slip into a role that isn’t made for you. You will not find but rather loose the joy in doing so.

… so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. (Romans 12:5)

See, the body does not consist of one member but of many. (1 Corinthians 12:14) If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together. (1 Corinthians 12:26)

We are not one like the other. We are all different! But if each member of the Body — the Church — is doing its best to work properly then we keep on growing! The growth of the Body makes all the difference!

Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, from whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love. (Ephesians 4:15-16)

You don’t have to be like the other women. This is not a competition. You have a unique function in the Body of Christ. Think: What did God call you to do? What is on your heart? What is the one Bible verse or passage that keeps coming back to your mind over and over again? What do you enjoy most (Singing? Helping? Encouraging?) Don’t get sidetracked by your thoughts and worries of failure! Keep on praying for God to guide you unto the right track. He will! Believe me, He will!

Further Reading:

  • Romans 12:3-8
  • 1 Corinthians 12:12-27
  • Ephesians 4:1-16

Author: Mirjam

Once lost, now found. German native, now living in the beautiful Sunny South East of Ireland. Helpmate, homemaker, mom, writer. Using my pen name (Mirjam Fels) I'm writing for and about Christian women.

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