How do we get along with challenging people inside the Church family?
In Getting Along With Others (part one) I talked about Missy and how hard it
is used to be to get along with her — compared to Rapsy. I wondered sometimes why God has brought her into my life. She was such a challenge to train — and, still is, at times. To be honest, during the first three months, I often thought about giving up on her.
How many times do we want to give up on others? How much easier it is to walk away from people we do not get along with! Or, just to ignore them when we don’t want to be around them.
Depending on our upbringing and preferences some people will get on our nerves more easily while others seem such an enrichment in our lives. What is it that will let us see relationships as gain or pain?
We compare individuals to us and to others. When we do that we forget that we are different — fearfully and wonderfully made by God who has a unique plan and purpose for each of us. We have a variety of gifts in the Church but not everybody has the same talent/s.
We expect people to act a certain way — a way that would make it easier on us to get along with them.
We focus on what we want instead of what they need. First, of course, we need to focus on Jesus Christ. Second we have to put the needs and well-being of others before our own. Because:
When we become givers instead of takers everything changes. (Rod Hembree, Quick Study TV)
It’s a daily task! We often forget that this needs to happen day by day — through denying ourselves, taking up the cross, choosing to love others and not repaying evil for evil. Remember that, we ourselves are not perfect. We are not glorified yet!