Have you ever asked yourself: I want to be more patient (kind, loving, quiet, gentle, etc.) but how do I do that?
Whenever I read about the woman in Proverbs 31:10-31 I see so much of what I long to be and what I lack to be. Then there is 1 Peter 3 where it says:
Do not let your adorning be external — the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear — but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. (vv. 3-4)
O, how I’m longing to have this gentle and quiet spirit! Don’t you? But who will be able to teach that?
Good Advice, Bad Advice
God’s Word says not to have bad company because it ruins good morals and we will learn wrong ways. Avoiding bad people altogether is not possible — for we are still in the world. But we need to chose wisely who we spend our time with and whose advice we listen to.
Titus 2:3-5 advises how older women should behave and how they should teach the younger women:
Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. (vv. 3-5)
Seek Him First!
So, yes, we can — and need to — learn from others! However, we must seek the LORD first.
Proverbs 2 tells us to seek Him — His wisdom, understanding and knowledge. He will give us wisdom knowledge and understanding — which will come into our hearts and will be pleasant to our soul; which will watch over us and guard us.
When we seek His Wisdom and Strength first we are well more able to distinguish between good and bad advice.