First I wanted to say “Thank you” to my readers for following along and to those who share/d their view on this (or any other) post on AbleToPerform.com Thank you for all your likes and comments — they make me think, some make me wonder and many are honey to my soul!
Let’s tackle part two of the Keepers At Home.
Homemaking: some really enjoy it while others might feel imprisoned by it. True, even the woman who loves to stay at home can bump into days when she feels very much overwhelmed by her daily tasks. But in the long run she probably wouldn’t want to trade her job for any other outside her home. Would she?
What makes a homemaker a good homemaker?
My mom was beautiful, very well dressed, she applied just the right touch of makeup and the amount of jewelry she wore was perfect. Every other Saturday she went to the hairdresser to get her hair done and her fingernails manicured. My parents owned a business (just steps away from their home) where mom was working most of the day. When home, she was an average cook but made the most delicous Kartoffelsalat (German potato salad), was amazing in baking cakes, knitted sweaters in all sorts of patterns and her home was always spotless. She loved to do the laundry and ironing was almost like an obsession for her — she even ironed all the underwear 🙄 Has she been a good homemaker? I think so; at least for the time she had been at home. Has she been happy there? I’m not so sure about that…
Listen to what Nancy Wilson is saying in her book The Fruit of Her Hands — Respect and the Christian Woman:
“When we view managing our home as drudgery, it becomes just that — drudgery.”
Our point of view, our motivation for doing this job makes all the difference. Yes, it’s hard to stand up for homemakers in this world. This world gives women credit if they are baking, caring for children and elderly people, cleaning, cooking, gardening, etc. for people outside their homes who pay her; however, it looks down on women who are staying at home doing exactly the same job for free. Is it any wonder when homemakers feel worthless?
Even in “Christian” books for women the secular worldview often shines more brightly than what the Word of God has to say about the important role of the woman at home. But the book I mentioned above is different and such joy to read. It’s an eye-opener, provides practical advice, gives comfort in troubled times and encourages us to go on. Nancy does an amazing job tackling even the most delicate topics of being a wife.
Talking about books, I want to remind you of my post Books — About Womanhood in July 2017 in which I gave some insight into a very interesting book called The Grand Design — Male and Female He Made Them. The authors, Owen Strachan & Gavin Peacock, argue that there surely are times when women are working outside the home. They also share, though, that:
“Long before a single young woman faces comlex vocational questions, she should hear regularly about the goodness of marriage, motherhood and homemaking.”
I think it’s not only “long before” but also shortly after a woman gets married and even years into her marriage, that she often misses out and is not being taught — neither the importance nor the goodness nor the “why” and “how-to” of her role as a homemaker. I wonder if my mom would have stayed at home if grandma would have taught her so? In my own life: I often felt inadequate for marriage, for raising children, for homemaking — many things took so, so long to learn and to love!
How about yourself? Are you a stay-at-home wife/mother? Or, are you working outside the home? Do you enjoy it? Would you do anything differently if you could?