It’s not just the spoken words that are having a major influence in our lives…
“How is your prayer life?” the preacher asked last Sunday. Many of us at church felt convicted and surely many of us will dwell on this question throughout the week. No, I’m not going to ask you the same question today; however, you are not off the hook yet because I’ll get back to prayer in one of my next posts.
Here is my question for today: “How is your thought life?” Let’s be honest, are the thoughts you have toward your husband consistently lovely and good? Or do you catch yourself now and then to dwell on how he has wronged you? Um, I do… And you know what? The longer I’ll stick to it the more offensive my attitude becomes. What was once a small thing has grown into a major issue and a stumbling block in our marriage.
Ephesians 4:22-24 says that we ought to put off the old man, renew our minds, and put on the new man. That includes our thought life!
We need to spot these negative thoughts which lurk around every corner of our marriage life before they’ll get out of hand. If we don’t, something small, that could have been dealt with more easily, grows into a type of bitterness that will root in our relationship with our husbands.
How does a healthy thought life look like? Philippians 4:8 tells us the characteristics of the things we should be thinking about.
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. (KJV)
Be honest. Pray to God to reveal to you what needs to change in your attitude toward your husband, in your heart, and in your thought life. “You don’t know what I’m going through with my husband,” you might say. True, I don’t. However, you and I know that there are women out there who are worse off than us and who are still eager to make it through it all.
With God nothing is impossible. (Job 42:2, Matthew 19:26, Mark 10:27, Luke 1:37) God will guide you in this because He is able to perform. It’s only possible because of God.