How many times did you hear the word modesty in the last few weeks? When was the last time you’ve asked for your husband’s opinion on your wardrobe? Did you ask him how sexy the new dress is that you’ve just bought?
Honestly, if he will find your clothing sexy, other men will, too. Would you like that? What do you think: will your husband like that? They don’t have to look at me, you might say. True, however, how about catching your husband looking at other women who are walking around revealing much of her bodies? Be honest, how do you feel about that? Also, as a Christian woman you need to know that in Romans 14 it says that we should not cause another to stumble. Think about it: what happens if you are wearing such revealing clothing that will cause a man to “committ adultery with you in his heart?”
Let’s read what God’s Word says in 1 Timothy 2:8-10
I desire therefore that the men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting: in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.
Now some may argue that this is not so much about clothing as it is about doing good. I think it talks about both. So let’s dig deeper into this modesty issue, shall we?
Modesty — What it means
Definitions vary among dictionaries but usually include phrases like wearing clothing that is not revealing. Not revealing will make you think about the majority of today’s society that isn’t into modest clothing any longer.
What to wear
Simply said: nothing that will show too much skin or that reveals curves. We want to wear clothes that will protect us and that will prevent exposure of parts of our body. On the other side, however, our clothing shouldn’t give us reason to boast (more on that some other time).
Where to find the right clothes
The 21st century woman who wants to dress modestly faces a real challenge while shopping for clothing. Nowadays most of the dresses, shirts and blouses show cleavage and much of the shoulder, while skirts and pants reveal midriff and way above the knees.
I went online to search for shops that would sell decent modest clothes for women. There are a few out there, I’ll have to admit, most of them are in the US, though (some do not ship to Europe or have to charge the postage that has gone up so much lately). You could also check shops that are selling Muslim/Islamic Clothes.
Alternative — How to cover up
On the other side, there are a few tricks how to “fix” today’s dresses, t-shirts, etc. so that you can wear them.
Low necklines can be fixed through a modesty piece (a fabric that is sown into the neckline of the dress to cover the cleavage). If you are not into sewing, you could also wear a camisole underneath these revealing clothes. Then there is another option: add another layer, a matching strapless bandeau tube, to your outfit. Or else, you can buy a modesty panel, also known as mock camisole which will clip to your bra, or a chemisette which can be attached to your bra, too. If all isn’t at hand, wear a bigger size scarf to wrap loosely around your neck and let it hang down so it will cover the cleavage.
Hiding curves isn’t always easy but a few small added pieces of clothing will do the trick: wear cardigans (they are available in many colors and length, with or without sleeves) to cover bosom, waistline and buttocks; buy long shirts and tunics instead of tight T-Shirts and blouses.