Rejoice with those who rejoice,
and weep with those who weep.
LORD Jesus, we praise You for You have stepped down to this earth to save Your people. Hallelujah! The government is upon Your shoulder. Your name is great and above all other names. You are called Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. You are the Comforter of the widows and the fatherless, and You will receive all those who seek You with all their heart. Help us to reach out to the hungry and broken-hearted souls, and give us wisdom and grace to point them to the One who can save them and heal them and ease their pain. In Jesus’ mighty name we pray. Amen.
We are not living in Paradise with Jesus (yet), but we are living in a fallen world. While on this earth we are exposed to anxiety, sorrows, pain, tears, and death. Sometimes we are hit by these things, and sometimes we see others who are going through tough times.
Many people do not know how to handle people who are in grief. For them life must move on. For the ones in grief, it had come to a sudden halt due to the death of a loved one.
It is hard to come together with people who are having such heaviness of heart. Words fail us. What can we say or do? We are afraid of their questions, and we are trying to find possible answers to any sort of question they might be throwing at us. Why are we so afraid?
Our natural response to death is quite a selfish one: Ignore it! But they, the ones who are mourning, cannot look the other way and say: This did not happen. They might shun to think about what has happened, or they shut their eyes and look at their situation like having a bad dream. At the end of the day, though, they cannot deny their reality.
Just being there for that someone in grief is often enough and so much more than she would ask. Don’t try to explain. Stop looking for all the right answers to her and to your own questions. Just be there and offer a listening ear, your shoulder to cry upon, your hands to hold hers, and the Love that is flowing from the Father’s Heart.
The worst thing we can do to the one in grief is to take no notice of her loss. After a miscarriage, giving birth to a stillborn baby, or the death of a child, the last thing this mother wants to hear is, “You are still young. You can still have (more) children.” After having lost her husband, the widow is thrown into a complete new situation: an important part of her has been ripped out of her life. If there is nothing else that you are able to say, the least you could say is that you are sorry for her loss.
Do not be afraid to give an ear or your shoulder to cry upon to the one who is weeping today.