Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands;
if any obey not the word,
they also may without the word be won
by the conversation of the wives;
While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair,
and of wearing of gold,
or of putting on of apparel;
But let it be the hidden man of the heart,
in that which is not corruptible,
even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit,
which is in the sight of God of great price.
For after this manner in the old time the holy women also,
who trusted in God,
being in subjection unto their own husbands:
Even as Sara obeyed Abraham,
calling him lord:
whose daughters ye are,
as long as ye do well,
and are not afraid with any amazement.
1 Peter 3:1-6
LORD Jesus we praise You for You have made us male and female. We are made in Your image. We are the sheep of Your pasture. And one day we will be able to enter into Your gates with thanksgiving in our hearts. Hallelujah! Until then guide us, O God we pray, and reveal to us the way of living our lives as a testimony to You. In Jesus’ precious name we pray. Amen.
It’s nearly two and a half years since I have posted Married to the Unbliever, and I have come across that post again yesterday. I’m so glad I did.
The post included a link, but now it is broken and so it no longer provides the link that will lead to the text of chapter 9 of Jay Adams book: Christian Living in the Home. The title of this chapter is: How to Live With an Unbelieving Husband. I cannot share all of what he says in my post. If you would ask me, though, to copy and paste the most important sentence that I have found within the chapter, here it is:
Conduct, not speech, makes the difference.
Jay E. Adams
Throughout the chapter he emphasizes that it is the wife’s behavior (walk) rather than her words (talk) that will win her husband to Christ.
Oh girl, I’m preaching to myself here! Living with an unbeliever or not, all of us need that reminder now and then, namely, that the message of our life often speaks louder than the words we are using to talk about the Word of God. If we keep on lecturing and preaching “empty” words, but are living a way which could only be described in different words, then our conduct does not match what we are saying. In other words, we are not making a difference in other peoples’ lives.
I love Jay Adams’ concluding words of his chapter on How to Live With an Unbelieving Husband:
Pray and live; that is your basic witness.