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In All the World and Socializing

Socialization is something that has been on my heart for almost two decades now — ever since the time we’ve homeschooled in Germany. This post is about homeschooling and the two main accusations homeschool families usually have to stand up to:

  • not sending their Christian children out to be the salt and light in the world
  • not allowing their children to socialize

The first charge comes mainly from Christians who say that, as a family, we have to evangelize others. Of course, we need to tell people about the Gospel, that’s not for discussion. However, we can do a lot of talking the talk without walking the walk. The second doubt comes from believers as well as non-believers who are questioning if homeschooled children are kept from socializing with others.

But see, this is not a question if we will send our children out into all the world or not, but a question of when is the right time to send them! What is meant by socializing with others?

Collins Dictionary defines socialization like this:

Socialization is the process by which people, especially children, are made to behave in a way which is acceptable in their culture or society.

Question is, what is acceptable in our culture or society? And should we care more about that than we care about what God’s Word says? Does our society value the same things we as Christians value?

Many years ago I did a project on socialization as part of a book called Wenn Kinder zu Hause zur Schule gehen. You will be able to read a (edited) English translation in the near future. As for now I want to share some of the words I wrote that time:

In other words, the children will takeover the standards, values and rules of conduct of the society.

Question is, as Christian parents, what standards, values and rules of conduct do we want our children to takeover?

Before I continue, I’m not saying that a child that goes to public school will never become a Christian! Nor am I saying that none of these children would be able to talk the talk or walk the walk. I’m saying, though, that in a secular culture the salt must be kept pure and the light must be kept on a lampstand to shine and that’s really hard in today’s public schools with today’s public agenda.

Let’s think about it… If we have the choice, should we send them into this world, into the public schools, before they are well socialized — that is, if we really want the socialization to happen according to biblical standards? Do we think they can be salt to the world without being trembled upon and losing their flavor?

A Woman’s Job

Have you ever asked yourself: What’s my purpose and my main goal? Who are the most important people in my life? What are the priorities I need to focus on?

In last Friday’s post I wrote:

While before one applicance served one purpose, today we want the appliances to do more and more different jobs. It’s that All-In-One-Syndrome, I guess. What we forget, though, is that too many functions squeezed into one appliance can actually spoil its overall usability.

We want to have certain rights: to have a decent education, to decide what’s good and what isn’t (for us and for our daughters). We want to be somebody. We crave for attention, love and respect.

Most women of today spend more time outside then inside their homes. They go through years of school, then they get a college education and shortly after their children are born they are back in college or at their workplace.

Let’s re-read what I wrote on Friday’s post and exchange some of the words…

While before a woman served her purpose, today’s society wants her to do more and more different jobs. It’s the All-In-One they expect her to be. What they forget, though, is that while she is taking on too many functions herself, her perfect role is spoiled.

Most men of today are told that they need to do certain jobs inside their homes, too, that is, to assist the working wife and mother of the children. There are situations, of course, when the woman has to take up an outside-the-home-job, no doubt about that! That’s when sharing housework with her husband is a great need and a wonderful blessing, no doubt about that either! But today I want to focus on the women who could — and should — stay at home.

The point is, working women are not able to give 100% in everything. Eventually, some things (relationships included) will suffer. A woman cannot give her all at the workplace and meet all the needs of her husband and her children and accomplish all of what her role as a Keeper Of the Home calls for.

We may think we are able to run the family home on the side but we must agree that it definitely won’t be running on all cylinders. We have such an influential role to play. We so often forget just how important it is for the devil to downplay it, distort it, yes, even to destroy it. That’s why it’s even more urgent to focus on it and take back what has been taken from us!

Old and New Freedom

About 15 years ago we went to a big toystore to buy a computer. We looked at one and it came with a mega harddrive space of 7GB. Whoa! We were so excited that day to come home with this brandnew PC. Yes, 7GB was a lot of memory back in those days 😉

It struck my mind recently that what used to be a lot of storage space on a computer would be laughed at today. Looking at cell phones the other day I found one that I really liked, one that comes with a 8GB internal and up to 32GB external memory. My goodness! Its internal memory is bigger than the computer we bought 15 years ago…

Technology is ever changing, isn’t it? Look at this one:

That’s my iPod 2nd Generation and it is still working just fine. As some reviewers like to write: it does what it says on the box. 🙂 It leaves me with nearly 100% of its memory space and doesn’t scream for the latest updates any longer.

Outdated? Um, true, some of the apps will no longer work or are limited in their capability…

Our fast paced world offers no grace to old things. People want the latest, biggest, fastest — most modern version of everything! Today we have the freedom to take along our phones, our mini computers, our internet and our “friends” everywhere we go. That’s what we want, right?

Yes, modern phones and devices come with a huge amount of apps, functions and memory. But do they really offer more? Maybe! However, they also scream for more: charging, memory space, amount of money paid. They are causing new and more problems: because they work more they will use more battery, because they need more functions installed they will use more memory space, and, because they are outdated faster we will need to buy new ones more often. Is that what we really want?

While before one applicance served one purpose, today we want the appliances to do more and more different jobs. It’s that All-In-One-Syndrome, I guess. What we forget, though, is that too many functions squeezed into one appliance can actually spoil its overall usability.

If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.

Yes, my iPod can only do certain things. I don’t mind! I use it to jot down notes or record some voice memos. Its calculator, clock and the calendar work perfectly, too. I can still turn on wifi and check the forecast using the weather app. And I can still use my iPod to listen to my music files and/or the audio files of the app of Truth For Life. What more do I need? If I want to go browse online, check the latest updates on social media or read my emails, then I just switch to another device — which will give me more freedom but also more sorrows!

I leave you with these verses as food for thought:

Thus says the LORD: “Stand by the roads, and look, and ask for the ancient paths, where the good way is; and walk in it, and find rest for your souls. But they said, ‘We will not walk in it.'”

(Jeremiah 6:16)

“Now therefore fear the LORD and serve him in sincerity and in faithfulness. Put away the gods that your fathers served beyond the River and in Egypt, and serve the LORD. And if it is evil in your eyes to serve the LORD, choose this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your fathers served in the region beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”

(Joshua 24:14-15)