Hospitality Stress

Please forgive me but I will have to keep this post a bit shorter today. It has been a hectic morning and I couldn’t believe how quick the time went by. But you know what? I love having guests over! Maybe it’s because I grew up in a home where hospitality was important?

Many times my parents would have guests over — for a quick brunch shortly before lunchtime, for coffee and cake in the afternoon, or for BBQ in the evenings. There was plenty of food on the table and we were never short of plates, of course.

Sometimes, when there was some sort of celebration happening, the guests would bring some things but most of the time my parents did all the cooking: meat on the grill, an abundance of salads, and at least two cakes for dessert. Our friends and family members enjoyed the food and the hosts 😉

What not too many of them know was that before major events like birthday parties there was a lot going on: stressing out over the upcoming event and longing for the house to be spotless when the guests arrive. Yes, I loved it when people came over but I hated the stress my parents made the hours before their arrival.

Once food was being served everything was okay — at least for a while. The stress picked up again after our guests were done eating: the table needed to be cleared as quickly as possible, dishes brought into the kitchen to be washed, dried and put away. I didn’t mind doing that. In fact, I even began to love it.

How about you? Do you enjoy guests coming over for dinner? Do you usually do a major house cleaning before they arrive?

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Homemaking – Teachers and Students

Did you ever think or say: I wished somebody would have told me? I did many times before and I still do. I wonder what would have happened if I would have been raised in a true Christian home. I often think of how much easier my homemaker’s life could have turned out to be if I would have been taught a few (more) skills while I was young. But let’s put aside wishful thinking, roll up the sleeves and get busy!

Titus 2:3-5 gives us further instructions:

the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things – that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. (NKJV)

I know it mentions quite a few things to teach but today I want to stick to the homemakers part. If you are an older woman, have you yet considered to pass on your knowledge to younger women? Or, if you are a younger woman, have you ever asked any of the older women if she would teach you some of the household skills she is good at?

There are those younger ones who love to learn from others and then there are those who do not want to be taught. On the other side, there are some lovely elderly ladies who love to share their gained skills with the younger women, while some others may want to keep their own method of accomplishing things their secret. But, say, isn’t it sad when, even within the same family, wisdom on how to create beautiful things does not get handed down? 😦

What have you experienced in the beginning of your homemaker’s journey? How have you developed the skills you are good in now? How do you think and feel about the whole issue of older women teaching younger ones?


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In Modest Apparel

How many times did you hear the word modesty in the last few weeks? When was the last time you’ve asked for your husband’s opinion on your wardrobe? Did you ask him how sexy the new dress is that you’ve just bought?

Honestly, if he will find your clothing sexy, other men will, too. Would you like that? What do you think: will your husband like that? They don’t have to look at me, you might say. True, however, how about catching your husband looking at other women who are walking around revealing much of her bodies? Be honest, how do you feel about that? Also, as a Christian woman you need to know that in Romans 14 it says that we should not cause another to stumble. Think about it: what happens if you are wearing such revealing clothing that will cause a man to “committ adultery with you in his heart?”

Let’s read what God’s Word says in 1 Timothy 2:8-10

I desire therefore that the men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting: in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.

Now some may argue that this is not so much about clothing as it is about doing good. I think it talks about both. So let’s dig deeper into this modesty issue, shall we?

Modesty — What it means

Definitions vary among dictionaries but usually include phrases like wearing clothing that is not revealing. Not revealing will make you think about the majority of today’s society that isn’t into modest clothing any longer.

What to wear

Simply said: nothing that will show too much skin or that reveals curves. We want to wear clothes that will protect us and that will prevent exposure of parts of our body. On the other side, however, our clothing shouldn’t give us reason to boast (more on that some other time).

Where to find the right clothes

The 21st century woman who wants to dress modestly faces a real challenge while shopping for clothing. Nowadays most of the dresses, shirts and blouses show cleavage and much of the shoulder, while skirts and pants reveal midriff and way above the knees.

I went online to search for shops that would sell decent modest clothes for women. There are a few out there, I’ll have to admit, most of them are in the US, though (some do not ship to Europe or have to charge the postage that has gone up so much lately). You could also check shops that are selling Muslim/Islamic Clothes.

Alternative — How to cover up

On the other side, there are a few tricks how to “fix” today’s dresses, t-shirts, etc. so that you can wear them.

Low necklines can be fixed through a modesty piece (a fabric that is sown into the neckline of the dress to cover the cleavage). If you are not into sewing, you could also wear a camisole underneath these revealing clothes. Then there is another option: add another layer, a matching strapless bandeau tube, to your outfit. Or else, you can buy a modesty panel, also known as mock camisole which will clip to your bra, or a chemisette which can be attached to your bra, too. If all isn’t at hand, wear a bigger size scarf to wrap loosely around your neck and let it hang down so it will cover the cleavage.

Hiding curves isn’t always easy but a few small added pieces of clothing will do the trick: wear cardigans (they are available in many colors and length, with or without sleeves) to cover bosom, waistline and buttocks; buy long shirts and tunics instead of tight T-Shirts and blouses.

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